“Were you hurt?” I asked.
“Surprised, certainly. A little sad that you were frightened. But angry? No.”
He gave my hand a gentle squeeze.
“I'd rather you ask a difficult question than spend the night worrying alone.”
I laughed softly through my tears.
“Next time, I'll start with a conversation.”
“That would be a good improvement.”
Then he smiled.
“Although I reserve the right to be offended if you accuse me of running an international rubber-duck conspiracy.”
I laughed so hard that I had to wipe my eyes again.
For the first time in two days, the tightness in my chest began to ease.
Before Dad left, we agreed on a few things. I would remain responsible for Emily's bathing routine, and he could join the guessing game whenever we were comfortable with the arrangement. Most importantly, we would make sure Emily understood that she could speak openly about anything involving her body, her feelings, or her experiences.
No game, surprise, or adult's feelings would ever take away her right to say no or tell us what had happened.
That conversation made me feel more secure than any simple explanation could have.
Just as Dad reached the front door, he turned around.
“There's something else about that game,” he said.
I looked up.
“What?”
“It isn't new.”
I frowned.
“What do you mean?”
He smiled.
“When you were about five, you hated having your hair washed. You got soap in your eyes one afternoon and refused to let anyone near your head for days.”
A faint memory stirred.
Dad continued.
“So I invented a guessing game. You closed your eyes, and I made different sounds with the toys while I washed your hair.”
I stared at him.
“You're serious?”
“Absolutely. You always guessed the duck first.”
Suddenly, the memory came rushing back.
A small yellow bathroom.
Warm water.
My father's patient voice.
A rubber duck squeaking beside the bathtub.
I remembered squeezing my eyes shut, determined not to cheat, while Dad asked me to identify each sound.
I remembered feeling safe.
“Oh, Dad,” I whispered.
He smiled.
“You were very competitive, even then.”
I laughed through my tears.
“How could I have forgotten?”
“You were five, sweetheart. Childhood is full of little moments that don't always stay with us.”
He glanced toward the stairs.
“But sometimes, they find their way back.”
I hugged him tightly.
For a few seconds, I was a little girl again, holding on to the person who had always made the frightening things feel manageable.
He patted my back.
“Some things never change.”
After he left, I stood by the window and watched his car disappear down the street.
I thought about the journey my mind had taken over the previous two days. One incomplete sentence had transformed familiar memories into frightening questions.
Yet I didn't regret checking.
Not for a second.
Because the lesson wasn't that a parent should ignore their instincts or assume every confusing situation is harmless.
It was that concern deserves a calm, responsible response.
Children may struggle to explain experiences in ways adults immediately understand. Adults, meanwhile, may allow fear to fill in the missing details.
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